I'm really sorry if this is ignorant or rude of me but if your mum and you are both ill shouldn't you be getting outside help instead of forcing yourelf to do stuff for her you shouldn't be doing?
We do get outside help, anon. As much as we can. But there’s some things that social care won’t pay for, there’s some things we want to do for ourselves, and there’s some things that we cling on to doing ourselves even if perhaps we shouldn’t.
But we do have outside help; carers in twice a day, every day.
doesnt your mum have the right to like 24h care? ignore this if its none of my business but like my aunt has limited mobility due to injuries and she has a carer with her literally all the time and its helped her a lot
She doesn’t qualify for needing that much care under our social services system.
Also, they point at me and go ‘well, you live with your mother, why can’t you do it?’ despite the fact that I’m also ill and limited and have my own care package *rolls eyes*
Mum had a bone scan last week and it’s shown multiple rib fractures over the last two years. Plus a possible (previously unknown) historic fracture in her foot. (We already knew of three fractures in that foot).
I feel a little bit ill. It’s so much worse than we’ve thought before.
do you think it's ok to cut people out of one's life? even if their not particularly abusive just... not what i'm looking for
If this question is what I think it’s about - I’m not going to talk about that.
If it’s not - every single situation is different. ‘Not what I’m looking for’ is arguably not a reasonable reason, unless the other person can’t handle that. But I think a lot of people find that it’s difficult to remain in the life of somebody who you’ve rejected or who has rejected you, at least at first.